On the off chance that anyone visiting the website is wondering why I’ve shifted from referring to myself as “Dan” to going by “Dani”, I imagine some explanatory comments would be appreciated. “Dani” is a nickname, but the more feminine variation isn’t arbitrary. I’ve had difficulties with gender dysphoria for a while now (to put it mildly), and since the world seems to be moving towards greater acceptance of transgender and gender nonconforming folks I’ve started trying to be more open.
To keep it brief:
What label? For the most part I describe myself as transfeminine, but that’s an adjective rather than a noun. I suppose the standard nomenclature for someone in my situation would be trans woman, but I’m very early in gender affirmation, so I’m being intentionally vague at this point.
Which name? Almost every version of my name appears to be in use in some context and I’m not especially bothered by that. My legal name is still Daniel, and if I do change it I’ll probably do the laziest possible thing and switch it to Danielle. In everyday life I go by Dani or Dan. I’m comfortable with either one, to be honest, but if you’d like to keep calling me Dan it’s probably not a bad idea to do something that signals to me that you’re thinking of it as a short form of Danielle rather than Daniel!
Which pronouns? Pronouns are still giving me some grief. It’s become pretty clear that my preference is she/her, but it’s a slow process! Convincing myself that it’s (now) socially acceptable for me to state a preference isn’t coming easily, and I’m trying not to rush things.
How public is this? It’s pretty much public knowledge at this point, despite obviously being a work in progress.
Transition? Eh, it depends on what you’re asking. I’m a fair way down the path of social transition, much to my own astonishment. Medical and legal transition are a little messier, and necessarily somewhat slower as a consequence.
Is this awkward? Oh my yes.